This is a very helpful article with the Biblical perspective on sexual purity from Randy Alcorn. You will find all his links at the bottom of this page.
Chapter 5 and 6 from the Purity Principle
Posted in: Excerpts from Randy’s Books, Sexual Purity Articles
By Randy Alcorn
The Purity Principle is this: Purity is always smart; impurity is always stupid.
Does God really argue for sexual purity on the basis that it’s the smart choice, while impurity is stupid? Judge for yourself:
Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife? For a man’s ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths. The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast. He will die for lack of discipline, led astray by his own great folly. (Proverbs 5:20-23)
Why avoid adultery? Because God will see it and He will bring judgment. But even before judgment day “the cords of his sin hold him fast.” The adulterer will be ensnared; he will die. He’s the primary victim of his foolishness. In contrast, the man who remains pure can “rejoice” and “be captivated” by his wife’s love, enjoying their sexual union (Proverbs 5:18-19).
In the next chapter God asks, “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished. (Proverbs 6:27-29)
Haunting words: no one who touches her will go unpunished.
Proverbs also depicts the man who is seduced into adultery as “an ox going to the slaughter,” and like a deer or bird being killed by a hunter (Proverbs 7:21-27).
A believer recovering from sexual addiction (which requires repentance from sexual sin) told me, “Addicts always think they can get away with it. You won’t change until you realize you can’t.”
I can never get away with sexual immorality. God wants me to remember that…for my sake.